Yesterday I lost my shit.
In two weeks we should be in paradise (AKA Hawaii) but we still hadn’t booked our COVID tests. I delegated it to my husband but he didn’t seem to give it the same level of importance it was currently occupying in my brain.
I pulled out my laptop determined to finally check this off my list. In just a few mouse clicks, I realized all the free appointments were gone. Putting this off was now going to cost us.
I was grumpy, irritated and felt rushed. I finally found the best option and got hubby on board to complete the online paperwork.
My temper tantrum was 100% a result of a mismanaged task list. I fell off track with managing my list. This is a reminder for me and hopefully it helps you too.
The first step is to find a system for organizing tasks that works for you. I’m not going to get into that here but I recommend finding one that works for your ...
Why you should make a Life Plan instead.
Think back to the last time you took a big trip. You spent time planning what to do, how to get there, and who will be along for the journey. Most of us have limited vacation time. While you may want to travel the world, you narrow your trip to just a few places you can see during the time you have.
Now stop for a minute and think. Have you ever applied this planning to your life?
I remember meeting with a school counsellor in both high school and college to discuss my career path, but let’s be honest while you think you know everything at 18 years old it’s a far cry from reality.
If I could turn back time, I would spend time writing (or refining) a Life Plan at the start of each year instead of a New Year’s resolution I will toss out before February.
It’s a concept I discovered thanks to the brilliant Michael Hyatt. A life plan starts with the end in mind. You think about how you...
You know that sinking feeling when you realize you’re in a conversation with no end in sight?
Instead of focusing on what’s said, your mind is running through your To-Do list for the day.
I realized last week that I lost about 30 minutes of my most productive time chatting with our carpet cleaner. Working from home allows for lots of time saved, but contactors and home maintenance workers can sabotage your productivity.
I tend to be the type to pretend that I’m not home when the doorbell rings (thank goodness for video doorbells). On the occasion when I need to let someone into the house, I’m always polite. Probably too polite, which is what gets me in trouble. However, I genuinely appreciate the value of good help, and I think a few minutes of niceties go a long way.
“How are you? Can I get you anything? OK, here’s where we need help.”
When you’ve gone beyond the small talk, and the...
It’s Tuesday morning after a 3 day weekend. There’s an anxious knot in the pit of my stomach for the short week ahead.
Part of life balance is taking the time to soak in those LOONG 3 day weekends but fit my work into a shortened week. Time to lean heavy on my calendar.
“What gets scheduled gets done” Michael Hyatt
This is important during any week but even more important today.
Here’s a breakdown of my calendar process.
Do you wonder how you’ll ever find the time to work on your big project? You’re ready to be more than just a Mom.
You’re not going to believe this but there’s a tool to find time for whatever it is that you want in your life. It’s simple but not always easy.
It’s called the Ideal Week. It’s a downloadable template that will move your life from reactive to proactive. It’s your life. OWN IT!
The purpose is to find an intersection between your dreams and your realities.
Here’s what mine looks like today.
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” Steve Jobs
Thanks, Steve, but what if you don’t know how to go after those BIG dreams?
We talked about how to set goals for your dreams. Now let’s dive deeper into the action plans for your achievement goals (not habits). The steps you need to take to bring yourself closer to living out those dreams.
Often we feel lost and overwhelmed with anxiety with the thought of sitting down to tackle those big dreams. This is because you don’t have a clear path to your dream. How do you face this unknown? I want to share with you a tested method I picked up from Jessica Abel.
First, write down all the questions that occur to you in a short brainstorming session.
You could use a journal, a digital notebook or any other means of capturing info that works for you. (NOTE: keep this list handy so...
Monday hit me like a ton of bricks.
Motivation had been my friend when I read the book Miracle Mornings. I was intrigued because I’ve always been a morning person. After reading, I set my alarm even earlier. Motivated to capture the day and “maximize my potential.”
I sprung out of bed for the first week (even on the weekends). Then the next Monday hit. I had spent the weekend as I usually would. Spending time with family and friends. Staying up later to enjoy more time, but then still bounding out of bed at 5am.
Seizing the day seemed like a much less worthy cause. Motivation ghosted me on that morning.
I realized if I wanted to continue with the morning routine I was loving, I was going to have to call on more than motivation to push me out of bed.
Let’s look at the definitions:
(noun): the act or an instance of motivating, or providing with a reason to act in a...
“A person should set his goals as early as he can and devote all his energy and talent to getting there. With enough effort, he may achieve it. Or he may find something that is even more rewarding. But in the end, no matter what the outcome, he will know he has been alive.” — Walt Disney
Walt definitely knew how to dream. The more remarkable thing is that he made those dreams come to life.
How do we dream BIG like Walt without slipping into the world of fantasy?
If you’ve created a life plan, tie your goals back to the areas of your life that need the most attention.
No life plan? That’s ok. (Although I HIGHLY recommend it). Wherever you want to focus your goal, think first about why. You’re going to have to dig deep here. It must be tied to your values. What really matters.
“If the heart doesn’t find a perfect rhyme with the head, then your passion means...
Yes, I geeked out on my planner.
Fast forward another ten years and my baby girl taught me that life doesn’t always fit into neat little boxes. She was a colicky baby and to this day a free-spirited girl. She challenges the status quo while I grip my to-do lists.
Every brain is wired differently. I agreed, in theory, but I didn’t grasp the concept until I was changing its diapers.
These struggles turned into a journey that changed my concept of mental health.
I won’t get into all the gritty details here but if you want to more check out my outdated Instagram account. Today, mental health is at the core of Life After Busy. You need to take care of your mind to craft your best life.
I’m not a mental...
I have a confession.
I used to pretend to sleep in on the weekends and instead use the extra time lounging in bed to check emails. Who does that?
My sweet hubby would always get up with the kids. Sacrificing his sleep so I could catch up on mine. I was always the one to get up with them during the week.
Looking back on it now, it’s ridiculous. What a crazy way to spend the time I should have been recharging? And the even crazier part...I was a full-time mom.
My family saw the value of a well-rested mommy. “Getting caught up on emails” not so much. Clearly, I had trouble asking for time alone.
This seems to be such a woman thing. We are so worried about putting everyone else first.
Let’s stop it. Here are some ways to find the alone time you need.
Yep. It’s really that simple.
Because sometimes you don’t really...