The Magic Power of Learning to Say NO

As moms, we often feel like we need to be superwomen. We're constantly juggling work with home life, and try to fit in time for everything else that's important to us. But oftentimes, something has to give - and it's usually our own wellbeing that takes a backseat. We convince ourselves that we can't possibly say no to anything, but is that really the best way to live? In this post, we'll explore the power of learning to say no, and how it can help you become a happier, more balanced mompreneur.

A No is a Yes to Something Else

We’ve all heard this before, but it bears repeating because when we face rejecting an invitation, it’s easy to forget. (Dare I say it warrants a Post It Note on your bathroom mirror.) To decrease your busy burden, get comfortable saying no.

A no to that invitation to speak at the local networking event is a yes to the time to finish your blog post.

A no to the friend who makes you feel less than is a yes to cuddle time in bed with hubby.

A no to tackling that next house project on your list is a yes to finishing the book that is reshaping your life. 

WARNING: don’t say no to the things that scare you.  Being afraid is something to conquer or at least explore.

“NO” Your Limits

As much as we all want to be superwomen, it’s only human to have limits.

How many projects can you handle this week?

As I write this, we are in the thick of the holiday season.  Save more room for joy by getting extra picky about what is going on your plate.

I’m guessing you’ve played the role of people pleaser.  Saying yes to everyone to avoid the discomfort of saying no.  But ladies, how does this always end?

It ends with you putting your own priorities on the back burner.  Stop heaping more onto your plate.

Respect > Popularity

Saying yes might win you a friend in the moment.  Saying no will earn their respect.

Remember, you are saying no to the request, not the person.  If just one “no” rocks your relationship, is it really worth it?

“Make your peace with the fact that saying ‘no’ often requires trading popularity for respect.” Greg McKeown, Essentialism.

Popularity feels good.  I get it.  Before you succumb to the easy yes remember, popularity is fleeting.  Just in case you missed that note passed to you in high school.

Ponder this for a minute.  What feels better saying no gracefully or stringing someone along with a lot of maybes?

It’s not easy to say no. We all want to be liked and accepted, but what if saying yes too often is the reason you feel overwhelmed? What if your “yeses” are keeping you from your dreams? Saying no can be magic. If this sounds like something that resonates with you, schedule a clarity crafting session today! You deserve time for yourself so go ahead and book it now.