I have a confession.
I used to pretend to sleep in on the weekends and instead use the extra time lounging in bed to check emails. Who does that?
My sweet hubby would always get up with the kids. Sacrificing his sleep so I could catch up on mine. I was always the one to get up with them during the week.
Looking back on it now, it’s ridiculous. What a crazy way to spend the time I should have been recharging? And the even crazier part...I was a full-time mom.
My family saw the value of a well-rested mommy. “Getting caught up on emails” not so much. Clearly, I had trouble asking for time alone.
This seems to be such a woman thing. We are so worried about putting everyone else first.
Let’s stop it. Here are some ways to find the alone time you need.
Yep. It’s really that simple.
Because sometimes you don’t really...
You have a giant project due today and the time blocked to get the work done. The problem is your brain is everywhere else but on the task in front of you.
The pressure feels like the walls of your office are closing in on you, but you can’t get focused to do the work. What’s going on?
Here are the top three reasons you can’t focus and LEGIT ways to work through them:
Procrastination is not doing the things you know you need to do when you need to do it.
Know yourself to fight procrastination.
It’s the first step to reclaiming your focus. If you’re finding it hard to resist temptation, make a note of how procrastination is affecting your life.
For example, did you rush through Sunday dinner so you could get back to the project that you put off until the last minute? Next time you’re tempted to scroll social media, instead of hitting your word count, think...
I’ve just lost an hour and so have (most of) you because I’m writing this paragraph on the day after daylight savings. Congratulations everyone! You’ve survived the attack of the changing clocks.
A battle with the clocks is a true test of your mindset. A mindset is a set of assumptions, methods, or notions. Losing time will mess with all of those.
How did the battle play out for you and your household?
I was feeling pretty good until my ten year old lost his mind with the mention that we had math tutoring today. An epic meltdown I’m going to chalk up to losing an hour of sleep.
Losing an hour, epic meltdowns, or any other setback will test you if you don’t have a clear vision of where you’re headed. Let’s dive deeper.
Think of your life as a car. You are driving along with a beautiful new ride.
My dream car is a Range Rover so...
Last weekend felt normal. We had dinner inside a restaurant with friends and both kids competed in their sports. Seems like coronavirus might be loosening its grip.
One lesson I’m taking away from all the isolation and quarantine of the last year is the power of routine.
Now you're thinking...routine sounds boring. Why should you care?
Even if it’s not a mediation routine, going through a practice over and over again each day will calm your mind. Plus, if you have routines in place to get it all done, your brain can stop worrying.
2. Form good daily habits
If you are trying to work on anything from spending more time with your kids to losing weight. Building a routine around that habit will increase your success.
3. Take better care of your health
What’s the change you want to make for your health? Develop a routine to support that change...
Your to-do list is missing the crucial thing for you to get the most done today.
What’s that thing you ask? TAKE A BREAK!
It’s easy to spot when somebody else needs to take a break.
When’s the last time you took a break? I’m going to guess, past the time it was too late.
Think of it like drinking water. You need to do it throughout the day before you become dehydrated. You need to take small breaks throughout the day before you burnout.
Here’s the why: the clarity and energy you gain outweighs the time lost.
The temptation is to sit chained to your desk until you finish that project. Getting up when only forced to by mother nature or some other interruption. I can see...
“You are a product of your environment. So choose the environment that will best develop you towards your objective...Are the things around you helping you toward success - or are they holding you back?” W. Clement Stone
I keep repeating that you are a unique human. Pay attention to the factors that drive your unique productivity.
Here are a few questions to figure out what works for you:
It’s been in my closet since we moved into this house over a year ago. A giant whiteboard with sketches to organize my dreams because some “guru” said I needed it. A tool I wasted too much time on because it worked for somebody else.
GASP! I just took a closer look at those sketches. I date one April 2019!
I love checking off to-do lists and planning the details of my day. I admire those that can easily see the big picture, and if that’s you, I have a giant whiteboard for ya. It’s littering my precious closet space.
Have you ever felt that spending time to organize yourself is an exercise in futility? It’s not you! It’s the tools.
This assessment helps you find your personal productivity style. Go ahead, take it. Who doesn’t love personality tests?
In school, and as parents, we are told to identify and work with learning styles. They labeled some kids visual learners, while others did...
I just said NO!
A good friend called and asked me to serve on the board of a charity. It’s a charity I happily give my time and money to, but I still said NO. I felt terrible, but this is a HUGE improvement. I used to lose sleep over these sorts of NOs. Or worse, say yes when I knew it wasn’t the right choice.
I’m a recovering people-pleaser.
People-pleasing is a disease. It makes everyone around you feel better, but in the end, the person who ends up suffering is you.
According to Miriam Webster, people pleaser has two definitions:
someone or something that pleases or wants to please people
a person who has an emotional need to please others often at the expense of his or her own needs or desires
The first definition sounds pleasant, but it usually leads to the second.
Have you seen Taylor Swift’s documentary “Miss Americana?” It’s a...
The thing about vision boards is what the hell to do with the giant poster board when I’m all done designing my destiny? A full-size poster board is not a simple thing to store.
Then I came across a design that you could store away in a drawer.
All the joys of vision boarding without the annoying storage issues.
Let me show you how:
Items you need:
Start with flipping through your stack of magazines and clipping out any image that resonates with your vision for the year. Don’t overthink this one (and I’m really talking to myself here). Turn on some music, grab a friend to clip with just whatever you need to make it fun.
After you’ve collected a pile of magazine clippings, take out your file folders.
Fold back the folders about a...
I could tell from my husband's voice that I didn’t even have a second to grab shoes as I ran to the car. Five hours later, I was tucking in my sweet boy who had just broken his first bone (actually BONES poor little dude).
Doctor's orders now limited my super active boy who had already felt the weight of social distancing.
He had a fresh perspective on quarantine. Overwhelmed with all the limitations, those board games I’ve been begging him to play since last spring had a whole new appeal.
The good news: you don’t have to break any bones for the cure.
Here are some ways we can take a fresh perspective to move past overwhelm:
Now into our second full week of 2021, you’re optimistic with a fresh perspective that comes with a new year. Use this as your next chapter. We start a new year feeling a sense of new beginnings.
HELL YES to a clean slate.