“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” Steve Jobs
Thanks, Steve, but what if you don’t know how to go after those BIG dreams?
We talked about how to set goals for your dreams. Now let’s dive deeper into the action plans for your achievement goals (not habits). The steps you need to take to bring yourself closer to living out those dreams.
Often we feel lost and overwhelmed with anxiety with the thought of sitting down to tackle those big dreams. This is because you don’t have a clear path to your dream. How do you face this unknown? I want to share with you a tested method I picked up from Jessica Abel.
First, write down all the questions that occur to you in a short brainstorming session.
You could use a journal, a digital notebook or any other means of capturing info that works for you. (NOTE: keep this list handy so...
“A person should set his goals as early as he can and devote all his energy and talent to getting there. With enough effort, he may achieve it. Or he may find something that is even more rewarding. But in the end, no matter what the outcome, he will know he has been alive.” — Walt Disney
Walt definitely knew how to dream. The more remarkable thing is that he made those dreams come to life.
How do we dream BIG like Walt without slipping into the world of fantasy?
If you’ve created a life plan, tie your goals back to the areas of your life that need the most attention.
No life plan? That’s ok. (Although I HIGHLY recommend it). Wherever you want to focus your goal, think first about why. You’re going to have to dig deep here. It must be tied to your values. What really matters.
“If the heart doesn’t find a perfect rhyme with the head, then your passion means...
Yes, I geeked out on my planner.
Fast forward another ten years and my baby girl taught me that life doesn’t always fit into neat little boxes. She was a colicky baby and to this day a free-spirited girl. She challenges the status quo while I grip my to-do lists.
Every brain is wired differently. I agreed, in theory, but I didn’t grasp the concept until I was changing its diapers.
These struggles turned into a journey that changed my concept of mental health.
I won’t get into all the gritty details here but if you want to more check out my outdated Instagram account. Today, mental health is at the core of Life After Busy. You need to take care of your mind to craft your best life.
I’m not a mental...
Last weekend felt normal. We had dinner inside a restaurant with friends and both kids competed in their sports. Seems like coronavirus might be loosening its grip.
One lesson I’m taking away from all the isolation and quarantine of the last year is the power of routine.
Now you're thinking...routine sounds boring. Why should you care?
Even if it’s not a mediation routine, going through a practice over and over again each day will calm your mind. Plus, if you have routines in place to get it all done, your brain can stop worrying.
2. Form good daily habits
If you are trying to work on anything from spending more time with your kids to losing weight. Building a routine around that habit will increase your success.
3. Take better care of your health
What’s the change you want to make for your health? Develop a routine to support that change...
It’s been in my closet since we moved into this house over a year ago. A giant whiteboard with sketches to organize my dreams because some “guru” said I needed it. A tool I wasted too much time on because it worked for somebody else.
GASP! I just took a closer look at those sketches. I date one April 2019!
I love checking off to-do lists and planning the details of my day. I admire those that can easily see the big picture, and if that’s you, I have a giant whiteboard for ya. It’s littering my precious closet space.
Have you ever felt that spending time to organize yourself is an exercise in futility? It’s not you! It’s the tools.
This assessment helps you find your personal productivity style. Go ahead, take it. Who doesn’t love personality tests?
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Managing your to-do list should never take more time than checking those boxes.
This is the wasteland of productivity. I have waded through it too.
We all want a system that’s effortless. Something that supports the way our brains work rather than drag down our productivity.
The ideal is to find a system that works with you and then make productivity improvements.
Remember when you tested a hypothesis in junior high school science class? Memories of the egg drop experiment are rushing to me. You designed a vessel to protect an egg when dropped and then tweaked it until it worked.
Let’s use the same approach with your productivity. Test these changes and see what works for you:
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Gripping tightly to my mom’s shoulders, I hobbled from the car to my daughter’s first-grade classroom. I had just celebrated my 40th birthday, but no doubt I moved like a 90-year-old
I was using my mom as a makeshift walker.
Looking back on it now, I have no clue how I maneuvered my broken body into a tiny wooden first-grade desk. After the Back to School presentation wrapped up, one of the other moms put her arm around me to ask what was wrong.
“I’ve got scoliosis,” I sighed, “and this just happens every once in a while.”
She offered to come to my house and rub magic oil on to relax my spasming muscles. Kinda creepy but desperate for any relief, I agreed.
The oil didn’t save me.
Had I reached a new low in my desperation to stop the back pain?
After I regained the ability to stand upright, my mission was to sit less.
This phrase caught on like...
Getting up before the sun never gets easy. Honestly, most days, I want to roll over and go back to sleep.
Here’s why you need to fight the urge to hit snooze.
Before sunrise is my time to connect with myself. To work on the person I want to be. Reflect on the directions my life has taken and rejoice in those moments or learn from those failures.
I unpack what’s on my mind. First, by silencing it through meditation and then by journaling.
It’s the perfect time to build a habit. Say you want to work on drinking more water, make it the first thing you do each morning. It doesn’t have to happen at 5 am. Just guzzle down as much water as soon as you hop out of bed.
Willpower is stronger in the morning.
Remember the last time you had friends over for dinner and you bought a dessert for the kids? You bought those extra chocolatey...
Last year burnout was classified as an official medical diagnosis. No doubt that 2020 confirmed this decision.
Not surprising, but still alarming.
I’m no doctor, but the logical treatment for burnout is the often overused term self-care.
I’m not talking about an extravagant spa retreat. That’s amazing if you can make it happen. But you need something that can fit into your everyday. A moment to notice the fall leaves on the tree out front. Time to silence all of your devices.
“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
I had stayed out late the night before. Too much tequila made me next-level tired. Somehow, I still held my promise because my daughter means the world to me.
Thinking back on it a few days later, it was priceless bonding time with my girl. We toured the murals of downtown Roseville (my childhood hometown), and I indulged her love of snapping IG pics with interesting backgrounds.
I spend lots of time in my head questioning myself in the moment. I took a second to celebrate my good decision.
Do you ever take time to reflect?
You probably wonder... WHY? When time is a precious commodity, sitting with our thoughts seems to be a waste. Or maybe a luxury you can’t afford.
Let me explain to you why it’s worth it.
Research of call center employees who spent 15 minutes at the end of the day reflecting about lessons learned performed 23% better after 10 days than those who did not reflect. Another study of UK commuters found a similar result. ...