You Know What You Have to Do - Now Put It on Your Calendar

Jun 03, 2021

It’s Tuesday morning after a 3 day weekend.  There’s an anxious knot in the pit of my stomach for the short week ahead.

 

Part of life balance is taking the time to soak in those LOONG 3 day weekends but fit my work into a shortened week.  Time to lean heavy on my calendar.

 

“What gets scheduled gets done” Michael Hyatt

 

This is important during any week but even more important today.  

 

Here’s a breakdown of my calendar process.

 

  1. For me it starts with my personal yearly review.  I spend time reconnecting with my life plan.  
  2. Next I set goals for the year that connect to the plan and commit those goals to a quarter during my year. There are times when goals have to roll from one quarter to the next but that’s a post for another day.
  3. Finally I take those quarterly goals and break them into weekly tasks that are put into my calendar.  
  4. I review my calendar each day to make...
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Your Ideal Week, Exploring Planning’s Super Power

May 27, 2021

Do you wonder how you’ll ever find the time to work on your big project? You’re ready to be more than just a Mom.

 

You’re not going to believe this but there’s a tool to find time for whatever it is that you want in your life.  It’s simple but not always easy.

 

It’s called the Ideal Week. It’s a downloadable template that will move your life from reactive to proactive.  It’s your life.  OWN IT!

 

The purpose is to find an intersection between your dreams and your realities.

 

Here’s what mine looks like today.

Steps to Create Your Own

  1. Do a brain dump of everything that is and you would like to have in your schedule. Include all your tasks and habits.
  2. Print out the template and use a pencil to time-block in all the actionable items (I make a lot of edits along the way)
  3. Recheck for happiness.  This is your ideal week, so make sure the week you have planned out makes you smile. Yes that...
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How to Find Alone Time in a Depraved Life

Apr 08, 2021

I have a confession.

 

I used to pretend to sleep in on the weekends and instead use the extra time lounging in bed to check emails.  Who does that?  

 

My sweet hubby would always get up with the kids.  Sacrificing his sleep so I could catch up on mine.  I was always the one to get up with them during the week.

 

Looking back on it now, it’s ridiculous.  What a crazy way to spend the time I should have been recharging?  And the even crazier part...I was a full-time mom.



My family saw the value of a well-rested mommy.  “Getting caught up on emails” not so much.  Clearly, I had trouble asking for time alone.

 

This seems to be such a woman thing.  We are so worried about putting everyone else first.

 

Let’s stop it.  Here are some ways to find the alone time you need.

 

Ask For It

Yep.  It’s really that simple. 

 

Because sometimes you don’t really...

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The Definition of Mompreneur isn’t People-Pleaser

Jan 28, 2021

I just said NO!

 

A good friend called and asked me to serve on the board of a charity. It’s a charity I happily give my time and money to, but I still said NO. I felt terrible, but this is a HUGE improvement. I used to lose sleep over these sorts of NOs. Or worse, say yes when I knew it wasn’t the right choice.

 

I’m a recovering people-pleaser.

 

People-pleasing is a disease. It makes everyone around you feel better, but in the end, the person who ends up suffering is you.

 

Definition of People-Pleaser

According to Miriam Webster, people pleaser has two definitions:

someone or something that pleases or wants to please people

 

a person who has an emotional need to please others often at the expense of his or her own needs or desires

 

The first definition sounds pleasant, but it usually leads to the second.



Even Taylor Swift is a Victim

Have you seen Taylor Swift’s documentary “Miss Americana?” It’s a...

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How to Make "Plan for Happiness" Work for You

Dec 10, 2020

You know that friend that has it all together.  AND she’s always beaming.  You look at her and think, “that’s a level of happy I just can’t reach.”  

 

Or is it?

 

What if I told you that a little time spent with your calendar could improve your happiness?

 

Yes, even if you aren’t a planner.

 

Before I get into the details, let’s define happiness.  Happy is a feel-good word. Another way to look at this is emotional health.  

 

Not everyone is happy all the time.  Even Mr. Rogers had his bad days.  

 

He helped kids identify their feelings.  Take the lyrics to this song of his for example:

 

What do you do? Do you punch a bag?

Do you pound some clay or some dough?

Do you round up friends for a game of tag?

Or see how fast you go?

 

Mr. Rogers was onto something.  It’s how we handle the darker emotions that’s the true sign of our...

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The Magic Power of Learning to Say NO

Oct 29, 2020

Two little letters, able to transform. NO.

 

Rosa Parks’s refusal to give up her seat sparked a movement to end racial segregation.  

 

Today, coronavirus lockdown protesters are making headlines saying NO.

 

Tomorrow, your refusal to take on that collaboration project will give the time you need to reconnect with your teen suffering from isolation.

 

Saying no is a special power you can use to make things happen that might seem impossible.

 

Plenty of pieces have been written on how to say no.

 

Today I want to show you why it’s worth the effort.

 

A No is a Yes to Something Else

We’ve all heard this before, but it bears repeating because when we face rejecting an invitation, it’s easy to forget. (Dare I say it warrants a Post It Note on your bathroom mirror.)

 

To decrease your busy burden, get comfortable saying no.

 

A no to that invitation to speak at the local networking event is a yes to the time...

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5 Ways to Plan for Tomorrow

Oct 15, 2020

Note the word PLAN, not Schedule in the headline.

The difference is subtle but significant.

Your schedule is an execution of your plan.

Beware of your schedule filling up with little thought.  That free email marketing you’re signed up for tomorrow.  Is that working towards your most important goal?

Planning takes more effort.  You need to protect your time.  Not give it away.

Plan Your Day

Taking a few minutes at the end of each day will ensure you spend more time in planning mode.

Review your day.  Open your calendar, whether it’s paper or digital.  This is where you review what’s on your schedule.  Take the time to prepare for meetings or appointments.  Is there a spirit day in your son’s class?  Pull out the outfit tonight before you tuck him in.

Chose your top 3 priorities for tomorrow.  This is the planning part.  Don’t start working off an endless to-do list.  You need to prioritize...

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How to Enjoy the Seasons of Life and Do Hard Things

Sep 24, 2020

My phone lit up again at 3:33 am.  I set it to do not disturb, but somehow my mom’s spirit sent me a message in the middle of the night.  As I type these words, I realize how crazy this sounds, but I’m not sure how else to explain it.

When mom passed away a year ago the 3 am wake-up calls began.  At first, the wake-up call came often, but today it doesn’t happen so much.

Taking an awkward step deeper into the spirit world, I’ll share that the 3 is a significant number. My mom left behind 3 of us in our immediate family.  It’s my reminder to carry on her legacy of holding the 3 of us together.

Don’t worry.  I’m not turning this piece into a discussion of mediums and tarot cards (although those fascinate me at Halloween parties).

Today I’m pondering legacy and the seasons of life.  These became very real to me when I had to say goodbye to mom.  Each stage presents unique opportunities and challenges if...

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How to Family Meal Plan and Enjoy It

Sep 17, 2020

How to Family Meal Plan and Enjoy It

Last week things were tense in my house over taco meat.

Yep, taco meat.

It wasn’t just any taco meat.  It was the frozen taco meat I had prepared weeks ago so I could take a night off from cooking.  A frozen meal from an evening of double cooking is something worth fighting for... who’s with me here?

Hubby had pulled it out to make lunch for the kids on a random Thursday.  Bonus points for helping with lunch, but when I walked into the kitchen to see taco meat sizzling, I saw red. I’m territorial over my freezer meals.

Ok, I agree I need to be more flexible (working on it).  

There are about a million things I’d rather be doing than meal planning and grocery shopping.  BUT, I believe the taste and quality of what we eat in important.  So I have a system to get it done quickly and painlessly.

Hoping it will help you.

My Meal Plan Process

On Monday nights, we always eat leftovers.  (Or...

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6 Tips for Tracking Habits

Aug 27, 2020

Your alarm goes off, you stumble to the bathroom, and what do you do next?

Nothing for me before coffee!

What is it for you?

The act of making coffee (or insert your thing here) is a habit.  I could do it blindfolded.

Dump out yesterday’s grinds, fill up the water tank, tap the new grinds into a fresh filter, and push start without even thinking. It’s hard-wired into your brain. 

What if you could create any habit that’s as effortless as brewing coffee?  Yep, even daily exercise.

Today I’m not going to delve into how to create a habit.  James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, is the guy to go see to dive deep on this one.  

Let’s look at tracking habits because it’s the secret sauce to keeping a good habit:

Making Good Habits Stick

 

  • Secure your motivation.  Think about the last time you tried to diet.  If your motivation was to lose weight it probably failed.  However, if you wanted to lose...
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