I have a confession.
I used to pretend to sleep in on the weekends and instead use the extra time lounging in bed to check emails. Who does that?
My sweet hubby would always get up with the kids. Sacrificing his sleep so I could catch up on mine. I was always the one to get up with them during the week.
Looking back on it now, it’s ridiculous. What a crazy way to spend the time I should have been recharging? And the even crazier part...I was a full-time mom.
My family saw the value of a well-rested mommy. “Getting caught up on emails” not so much. Clearly, I had trouble asking for time alone.
This seems to be such a woman thing. We are so worried about putting everyone else first.
Let’s stop it. Here are some ways to find the alone time you need.
Yep. It’s really that simple.
Because sometimes you don’t really...
I just said NO!
A good friend called and asked me to serve on the board of a charity. It’s a charity I happily give my time and money to, but I still said NO. I felt terrible, but this is a HUGE improvement. I used to lose sleep over these sorts of NOs. Or worse, say yes when I knew it wasn’t the right choice.
I’m a recovering people-pleaser.
People-pleasing is a disease. It makes everyone around you feel better, but in the end, the person who ends up suffering is you.
According to Miriam Webster, people pleaser has two definitions:
someone or something that pleases or wants to please people
a person who has an emotional need to please others often at the expense of his or her own needs or desires
The first definition sounds pleasant, but it usually leads to the second.
Have you seen Taylor Swift’s documentary “Miss Americana?” It’s a...
You know that friend that has it all together. AND she’s always beaming. You look at her and think, “that’s a level of happy I just can’t reach.”
Or is it?
What if I told you that a little time spent with your calendar could improve your happiness?
Yes, even if you aren’t a planner.
Before I get into the details, let’s define happiness. Happy is a feel-good word. Another way to look at this is emotional health.
Not everyone is happy all the time. Even Mr. Rogers had his bad days.
He helped kids identify their feelings. Take the lyrics to this song of his for example:
What do you do? Do you punch a bag?
Do you pound some clay or some dough?
Do you round up friends for a game of tag?
Or see how fast you go?
Mr. Rogers was onto something. It’s how we handle the darker emotions that’s the true sign of our...
Two little letters, able to transform. NO.
Rosa Parks’s refusal to give up her seat sparked a movement to end racial segregation.
Today, coronavirus lockdown protesters are making headlines saying NO.
Tomorrow, your refusal to take on that collaboration project will give the time you need to reconnect with your teen suffering from isolation.
Saying no is a special power you can use to make things happen that might seem impossible.
Plenty of pieces have been written on how to say no.
Today I want to show you why it’s worth the effort.
We’ve all heard this before, but it bears repeating because when we face rejecting an invitation, it’s easy to forget. (Dare I say it warrants a Post It Note on your bathroom mirror.)
To decrease your busy burden, get comfortable saying no.
A no to that invitation to speak at the local networking event is a yes to the time...
Note the word PLAN, not Schedule in the headline.
The difference is subtle but significant.
Your schedule is an execution of your plan.
Beware of your schedule filling up with little thought. That free email marketing you’re signed up for tomorrow. Is that working towards your most important goal?
Planning takes more effort. You need to protect your time. Not give it away.
Taking a few minutes at the end of each day will ensure you spend more time in planning mode.
Review your day. Open your calendar, whether it’s paper or digital. This is where you review what’s on your schedule. Take the time to prepare for meetings or appointments. Is there a spirit day in your son’s class? Pull out the outfit tonight before you tuck him in.
Chose your top 3 priorities for tomorrow. This is the planning part. Don’t start working off an endless to-do list. You need to prioritize...
My phone lit up again at 3:33 am. I set it to do not disturb, but somehow my mom’s spirit sent me a message in the middle of the night. As I type these words, I realize how crazy this sounds, but I’m not sure how else to explain it.
When mom passed away a year ago the 3 am wake-up calls began. At first, the wake-up call came often, but today it doesn’t happen so much.
Taking an awkward step deeper into the spirit world, I’ll share that the 3 is a significant number. My mom left behind 3 of us in our immediate family. It’s my reminder to carry on her legacy of holding the 3 of us together.
Don’t worry. I’m not turning this piece into a discussion of mediums and tarot cards (although those fascinate me at Halloween parties).
Today I’m pondering legacy and the seasons of life. These became very real to me when I had to say goodbye to mom. Each stage presents unique opportunities and challenges if...
Last week things were tense in my house over taco meat.
Yep, taco meat.
It wasn’t just any taco meat. It was the frozen taco meat I had prepared weeks ago so I could take a night off from cooking. A frozen meal from an evening of double cooking is something worth fighting for... who’s with me here?
Hubby had pulled it out to make lunch for the kids on a random Thursday. Bonus points for helping with lunch, but when I walked into the kitchen to see taco meat sizzling, I saw red. I’m territorial over my freezer meals.
Ok, I agree I need to be more flexible (working on it).
There are about a million things I’d rather be doing than meal planning and grocery shopping. BUT, I believe the taste and quality of what we eat in important. So I have a system to get it done quickly and painlessly.
Hoping it will help you.
On Monday nights, we always eat leftovers. (Or...
Your alarm goes off, you stumble to the bathroom, and what do you do next?
Nothing for me before coffee!
What is it for you?
The act of making coffee (or insert your thing here) is a habit. I could do it blindfolded.
Dump out yesterday’s grinds, fill up the water tank, tap the new grinds into a fresh filter, and push start without even thinking. It’s hard-wired into your brain.
What if you could create any habit that’s as effortless as brewing coffee? Yep, even daily exercise.
Today I’m not going to delve into how to create a habit. James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, is the guy to go see to dive deep on this one.
Let’s look at tracking habits because it’s the secret sauce to keeping a good habit:
Am I right to guess we’ve all spent more time indoors this year than we ever imagined we would? Did you ever think we would be here?!
It’s changed the way we work and relate to each other.
My work requires a deep focus. Time I need to be in my head and with my thoughts. I’ve played around with tech that helps me get into that deep focus, but today I’m diving even deeper into the tools. There’s some fancy stuff to get your head in the game.
First, here’s the two I’ve been using forever:
Honestly, it’s been so long that I’ve been using this app, I forget how I stumbled across it. I can’t sleep without the pink noise sound, and I’ve trained my family to like it too. Bonus, when we go on vacation I can crank it up and drown out all the noises everyone makes in their sleep.
I’ve also used their mix pad to create the...
Ever feel pressure to complete a task as time ticks by on a stopwatch? Our focus can be intense when you add the element of time.
In the name of research, I devoted a day to using the Pomodoro method. Will I ever be able to finish a project again? I work from home and thanks to coronavirus so do my husband and 2 kids. Oh yes, and our giant Labradoodle Rudy.
Not the most productive environment.
Here’s how my day went:
First Pomodoro 6:28 am
This was a late start. I usually start my mornings at 6 am, but we spent the night before soaking in the last few bits of summer vacation. And you guys know how I feel about sleep.
The second stumbling block was my phone didn’t charge overnight. I had planned on using Focus Keeper on my phone, but that wasn’t an option.
A quick google search brought me to Tomato-Timer It was easy to use working for my desktop. I loved the little countdown timer...